This is what they'd think about their lives "My life is pitiful" have no life embody upstairs doesn't like me" "The world water to destroy me Notenly loves me everybody hates mele is undair and all efforts are useless "Lafe stuks I'm stupid Nothing god ever happens to me" "I'm the most unlucky person on this xcuse me was there death and destruction, or just a grade, a ticket, and a bad phose call? Are these just people with low self-esteem? Or card-carrying pemists? No When they aren't coping with failure, they feel just as wonby sal optimistic and bright and attractive as people with the growth mindset So how would they cope? I wouldn't bother to put so much time and effort into doing well in anything (In other words; don't let anyone measure you again) "Do nothing" "Stay in bed "Get drunk." "Eat" "Yell at someone if I get a chance to Eat chocolate" "Listen to music and pour "Go into my closet and sit there" "Pick a fight with somebody "Cry" "Break something. What is there to do?" What is there to do You know, when I wrote the vignette, I intentionally made the grade a Ct, not an F. It was a midterm rather than a final. It was a parking ticket, not a car wreck They were "sort of brushed off. not rejected outright. Nothing catastrophic or irreversible happened Yet from this raw material the fixed mindset created the feeling of atter failure anil paralysis When I gave people with the growth mindset the same vignene, here's what they said. They'd think "I need to try harder in class, be more careful when parking the car, and wonder if my friend had a bad day." "The C would tell me that I'd have to work a lot harder in the class but I have the rest of the semester to pull up my grade There were many, many more like this, but I think you get the idea Now, how would they cope? Directly "I'd start thinking about studying harder (or studying in a different way) for my next test in that class, I'd pay the ticket, and I'd work things out with my best friend the next time we speak

This is what they'd think about their lives "My life is pitiful" have no life embody upstairs doesn't like me" "The world water to destroy me Notenly loves me everybody hates mele is undair and all efforts are useless "Lafe stuks I'm stupid Nothing god ever happens to me" "I'm the most unlucky person on this xcuse me was there death and destruction, or just a grade, a ticket, and a bad phose call? Are these just people with low self-esteem? Or card-carrying pemists? No When they aren't coping with failure, they feel just as wonby sal optimistic and bright and attractive as people with the growth mindset So how would they cope? I wouldn't bother to put so much time and effort into doing well in anything (In other words; don't let anyone measure you again) "Do nothing" "Stay in bed "Get drunk." "Eat" "Yell at someone if I get a chance to Eat chocolate" "Listen to music and pour "Go into my closet and sit there" "Pick a fight with somebody "Cry" "Break something. What is there to do?" What is there to do You know, when I wrote the vignette, I intentionally made the grade a Ct, not an F. It was a midterm rather than a final. It was a parking ticket, not a car wreck They were "sort of brushed off. not rejected outright. Nothing catastrophic or irreversible happened Yet from this raw material the fixed mindset created the feeling of atter failure anil paralysis When I gave people with the growth mindset the same vignene, here's what they said. They'd think "I need to try harder in class, be more careful when parking the car, and wonder if my friend had a bad day." "The C would tell me that I'd have to work a lot harder in the class but I have the rest of the semester to pull up my grade There were many, many more like this, but I think you get the idea Now, how would they cope? Directly "I'd start thinking about studying harder (or studying in a different way) for my next test in that class, I'd pay the ticket, and I'd work things out with my best friend the next time we speak

This is what they'd think about their lives "My life is pitiful" have no life embody upstairs doesn't like me" "The world water to destroy me Notenly loves me everybody hates mele is undair and all efforts are useless "Lafe stuks I'm stupid Nothing god ever happens to me" "I'm the most unlucky person on this xcuse me was there death and destruction, or just a grade, a ticket, and a bad phose call? Are these just people with low self-esteem? Or card-carrying pemists? No When they aren't coping with failure, they feel just as wonby sal optimistic and bright and attractive as people with the growth mindset So how would they cope? I wouldn't bother to put so much time and effort into doing well in anything (In other words; don't let anyone measure you again) "Do nothing" "Stay in bed "Get drunk." "Eat" "Yell at someone if I get a chance to Eat chocolate" "Listen to music and pour "Go into my closet and sit there" "Pick a fight with somebody "Cry" "Break something. What is there to do?" What is there to do You know, when I wrote the vignette, I intentionally made the grade a Ct, not an F. It was a midterm rather than a final. It was a parking ticket, not a car wreck They were "sort of brushed off. not rejected outright. Nothing catastrophic or irreversible happened Yet from this raw material the fixed mindset created the feeling of atter failure anil paralysis When I gave people with the growth mindset the same vignene, here's what they said. They'd think "I need to try harder in class, be more careful when parking the car, and wonder if my friend had a bad day." "The C would tell me that I'd have to work a lot harder in the class but I have the rest of the semester to pull up my grade There were many, many more like this, but I think you get the idea Now, how would they cope? Directly "I'd start thinking about studying harder (or studying in a different way) for my next test in that class, I'd pay the ticket, and I'd work things out with my best friend the next time we speak