I am in love with a guy and i am asking this question myself am i in love and is this right person ？because there is so many stages of love.. you need to pass it just like an exam . First stage as always so beautiful and amazing with all that kind of feelings as it feel that person only belongs to you, and you start rely on that feelings ...because at first stage there is no fight and no argument ..just sweet talk and know each other  ...but real love start after know each other that’s the second stage of love just like a play game easy to medium to hard level exactly life is all about game start with easiest to things but its about your ability how you can handle it yeah with experience too and for that you need to fall in love again and again i know its not easy and also not easy at once for everyone

so with that second stage people go through with all those feelings and emotions that we never ever experienced but its totally normal . You know what a worst part in second stage  is you already accept that person no matter hows he/she treat you because you in love thats why we called its blind love lol. i agree with that phrase .

i know you thinking what's writer stage right now . mine just first stage end.

we enough know each other maybe my second stage has started what i am experiencing is same stuff and i am tired of it . Hurt myself and expect more and build those fantasy stuff which is hardly fulfilled i guess . i know its bitter somehow relationship stay because we are lazy to start again and go through all those stuff damn foremost is sex ..need sex with only that partner whom you in love that's a human nature  because its totally different feelings and vibe that we shared in first stage ..yeah so we still continue but in second stage that's the stage where we first start feelings of jealousy because love is selfish and possessive too

no matter how much you act normal. but somehow that jealousy emotion itself include and no matter how much you tried to control that's the reason of fight in couples . that's totally different feelings because that's where part of our love become more powerful and lovable moment ..lol some people are like those emotions a lot so they find a way to fights ..weird .. i do too but before told my boyfriend that i am craving for fights lol. so we can end up peacefully, not in most heart breakable breakup lol . Because i am in love and i want to pass all stage so we can live peacefully not in depression and doubt . i will share with next stage of love who know what it will be i am just here to express my point of views ..hope you all don't take it personally ...so what you guys think about it ? please share yours views  too

I know everyone has secret fantasy very dark one . Some of them couldn't recognize but some of them while keep exploring own body and desire they know their desire even through met those desire but cant find the partner whom you can share with who likes to enjoy everything according to you . this isn't that much easy but can possible

yeah this me writer who have great desire of dark fantasy rather than normal sex .. and i know i am not the one ..because most of them have those desire who are eagerly to share it out with partner but as soon they know ..they become judgmental which is the great problem of human beings ..i like pleasure from pain and totally normal i hope people won't take this too way far ..i am already tired with my ex judging way who make me feel i am a thing which need to be fix  damn i am still traumatized with those evil behavior which make my self esteem so low ...i have been thinking why i do like those stuff ..am i abnormal or what ? but somewhere as i know,and heard  playing a steamy movie inside your head can come with a whole wealth of advantages . fantasizing about somebody gives yours sex life a whole new dimension. Sexual fantasies play an important role when it comes to your sexual pleasure .

So thinking about those dark desire is good but act on them even writer have no experience about it lol . what you guys thought about it?

So my partner whom i love with him ..he like to act  dominant while having sex ....and for me what i like ...you know already lol..no need to tell ..its not like he is right one .. but yeah sometimes our need are different where we need to discuss about it ...i am totally in love the way he act as dominant and make me do all those submissive stuff ... but as far i saw he have another desire too but even i dont know what is it .. i feel bad as he success to satisfied me but am i success to satisfied him ? i dont know what his needs  ... Maybe i dont know him. but one thing i dont like if i order him to do anything he got angry .. yeah and i discuss it ..he told me since childhood have been obey guy who obeyed everything what elders and his ex girlfriend say ..when he thinks about it make himself hate by then ...which turn him into this personality ..as far i know people likes to do which he haven't done before ..get attracted to it ..thats what his desire turn him into dominant person ..and i love the way he is half evil half angel ..crap i am not here to discuss him lol..its just people desire how turn them into next level with all those emotion and feelings ..all those changes with seasons and heartbreak in life ..thats also a beautiful part of human ...people sometimes cant accept the changes in their partner ..but all we need to understand ...but people have to understand ...no one can be same for long ..with their knowledge and exploration things will change and i know its bitter ..but true need to accept partner too ...if their desire doesnt meet with you ..they might find those qualities in others ..damn once they found that partner ..they get attracted ti ..you have no other option to let them go and let them explore more ...i am sure with that heartbreak you change to create other self desire, and then you will be happy to let them go ..because thats what life is ..several stories ..several desires, but there is always end of chapter ...to start next chapter ...so explore more ..pursue your happiness in yourself rather than others ...

Most important create your own fantasy and desires that's the only freedom and beautiful thing you can do in this life.

When after know each other after all first impression and attitude ..thats the stage where things got out of the hands and we got so used to it with that person that we got afraid of it losing them that what we called attachment ..and starting depend on person ...its not bad to get attach but we have to not lose ourselves ..dont disconnect yourself just for to connect to others and i am sure you wont be happy with it . No matter how much great this person to you .

thats the third stage where you unable to leave that person in any case .. Where love become stronger.

writer third stage also same she wanted to leave him because of his bad behavior towards herself was  unbearable ..but couldn't..... she used to him and that attachment unable to let her go .. thats the stage where people give more chance to each other and thats also the stage people start hurt each others feelings ..

one feel jealous other will also deliberately make you feel same way ..

Writer also did same stuff with his man ..that day she felt sad because he avoid her for other woman ..he just forget me there like i am nothing ..writer start feeling low because the way he treat her was unbearable to her ...but still she forgive him .. not to mention that stuff ..but suddenly writer want him to feel same way ...so she next day start treat him same way ..his man got angry and started to abuse her ....by then writer was thinking why i didnt dare to got angry at him that same day ...why she couldnt abuse him too ...she started thinking to leave him ...but at the moment she decided to leave ...his man came to her room and said .."No ...you cant leave me ..his eyes full of tears and hugging her ...also scolding her ..how dare you to think of it to leave me ? In fact our chapter of life just started and you just like this leave me without any words moreover i was being abused because of you liked it isnt it" ?

writer has a dark fantasy of being get abuse by his man ..and she told her all stuff to him what she really desire about ...

but the fact is ...there is great difference using those fantasy in real life..people should know when and where have to respect their partner ..we are human ..do mistakes and its normal ..but you know what writer say then ?

she knows she is in third stage of love ..its very difficult to leave him ..and same goes to him ..because he is also in same stage as i am ..same feelings and we really want to work together in this relationship ...they decided ...not to compare your partner with any other ..dont look back of each others partner's past personal life ...not to be Judgy ...they both agree on that 3 point ..and started to treat each other well..

but writer still thinking of his bad behavior ..she still afraid of it ..

the thing is in this world no one perfect and you have to accept your partner as is it .. if you cant handle your partner's behavior or you feel so depressed about it..dont stay longer with them ..thats only waste of time ...

communication and respect in relationship is so important without it there is no love ..nothing ..you only lose yourself ..if you love someone you have to treat him and being treated is basic needs for people ..