Love is not a race of which failing and succeeding have to be seen. It is a beautiful process. No matter what it ends up at. Love always makes you a better person. A bad relationship and your bad choice do not mean that love is bad.ย
Failure of love is indeed the failure of your decisions. No one is perfect, and not everyone is just perfect for you. Also, the kind of love that we experience as aย teenagerย is not the right one from various aspects.ย
The first thing, you donโt really know what you are seeking for, and longing for. At the age when you donโt know yourself fully, you are trying to involve someone else with you. But the love that happens when you are fully prepared for it never leaves you.ย
The true and genuine love is far different than the love that is showcased in the movies and in the novels. The kind of love that turns out to be a failure is not real love actually. Love should be liberating enough.ย
By falling in love, you should be able to rise within yourself. The love that you are experiencing is something that makes you spend most of the time together. If you are not texting or calling one another for a day, you think it is falling apart.
It is not loving. Such should not be love. Giving each other the support and environment to grow, is love. Giving each other their own space and time is love. Giving everything that you could, without expecting anything in return is love. And if nothing is expected, how will the failure come? Neither will success come nor failure.
Love that expects something in return, Fails.
Love is always selfless. If there comes a motive behind loving someone, it is not what love is. The true essence of love is deeper than you can ever imagine. First thing is, to love, you donโt have to do it purposefully.
Just because all your other friends are having someone to love, it is not mandatory for you to also have someone. Indian Television programs are mainly shedding their focus on love. This is the reason why every youngster constantly thinks of college as a place to find their better half.ย
Now, the college-going population hardly knows about life and has hardly seen any hardships. They go on fantasizing love and are determined from the very first day to make love on the campus. With this approach, not only love, but anything is going to fail.
When growing apart becomes better than growing together, the love still remains.ย
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There are times when you have to choose between your career and your love. They should actually be not the options. When your love is real, your love makes you free and independent. If it is not making you independent, you should always choose your independence.ย
Love that makes you interdependent today, will make you handicapped tomorrow. Your growth is vital in any relationship. Without your personal growth, the relationship cannot grow. Without you being yourself, you cannot surrender yourself to someone else.ย
Choosing your freedom can cost you your relationship and it is okay. You should be willing to give away the things that bar your freedom. This couldnโt be called love failure. Love that you shared was true and the feeling that you have experienced will still remain real. Just the relationship will not continue any further.ย
However, this scenario will occur when you are not a family yet. At least in India. You will have to sacrifice your independence to save your family. Otherwise, the scenario is not feasible in todayโs Indian era. And is neither encouraged.ย
Love is the ultimate lust. And the ultimate never fails.
When your desire of seeking something else is finished, love has happened there. In the bond of love, you get the riddance from all the other bondages. If your love is the ultimate one, it will not make your soul drift from here to there.
Trying out if the relationship is working or not should not consume forever. In this trial and error, we are cheating ourselves. If you are not clear of what you want, why chase it?
Making love is a choice. And if you are not fully prepared for it, it is better not to make love.
How To Deal With Love Failure?
Not love, but any failure, you donโt need to deal with it. Rather, you should chase it. Especially when it is about love, it is an illusion. Failure and success in themselves are illusions. But when people reject you or abandon you, you start feeling nervous.
It is okay to feel nervous,ย sad, and down when you get rejected by anyone. Thatโs a very human characteristic. So now, if you have fallen in love, I believe you are mature and grown-up too. Handle the situation like you are a grown-up one.
You can initially think of all the reasons why the other person rejected or abandoned you. It may be either your mistake or they might not be interested in you.
You are not responsible for their interest. You are responsible for your mistakes. The first thing, you donโt really know what you are seeking for, and longing for. At the age when you donโt know yourself fully, you are trying to involve someone else with you. But the love that happens when you are fully prepared for it never leaves you.ย
๐๐จ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐, ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐.
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