Let's talk about respect(let's break the banality in this word)

Hello! I don't what time it is for you, but here, it's currently 7:43 pm. This evening, I really want to talk about respect and I see you coming here. You are reading this saying things like: ''Respect is something we talk about since school!'' or ''It's something we already know about, so why talk about this?'' I understand. I personally felt like this too when we talked about this in class, but after this day, respect feels like the most important thing ever. So with no further due, let's start!

I guess we all have heard about respect at school, at work, in life in general. This word was over used and now, we only think of it as a banal word. But you know, basically, respect is a form of self love and care about people and thigns all arround you, beginning by your ownself.

So, here I come with the most important form of respect ever. You see, I already know what you'll say. ''Oh no, not self respect again!'' and ''I already know how to respect my own self''

♡~Self respect~♡

Welcome to my self respect intro. Not very original, but my topic isn't so... Yep.

Slef respect is a form of self love, self care and selfishness sometimes. I know... Being selfish is not the best thing according to society so we'll start by that. Selfishness.

I want you to be be selfish sometimes.

I don't know you, but do you know people that can not say no to anyone? Are you that kind of person? I personally am and it's draining.

You can never say ''no''. Your friends want to go shopping or want to hang out and you're not feeling like it. You want to stay home, relax, take care of yourself... At some point, your drained. Your batteries need to be charged but you still can't say ''no''. Well... We're done with this time. Say ''no'' if you don't feel like going out, you don't feel doing anything.

Talk about you're self if you need to talk, tlak about your problems and help yourself by having this weight off your shoulders. This may hurt some people arround you, but do what you feel like is better for you, not for others when it comes to your mental and physical health.

Ok, so... After selfishness, we'll talk about self care. This is not about taking care of yourself face to others or well, not only. We'll start with it thought, but we talked about it earlier, so I'll repeat myself. Say no if you don't feel like doing anything, take care of yourself and mostly in pandemic when everyone is in lock down. I guess to dress up and do your hair and make up sometime feels better. I guess to spend time with your own self feels good. Also, it can help you rediscover yourself and parts of you you didn't know were inside you.

Now that this is said, we'll talk about another form of self care I think is very very VERY important. Stop comparing yourself to others, to belittle yourself by saying your idiot, your good at nothing, your ugly,... These are hurtfull and dangerous aptitudes to adopt for your mental health and even, health in general. It can cause some mental health disorders like depression, anxiety, mood swings and even annorexia and boulemia. To help prevent these, finish reading this chapter. You'll have some tricks at the end to help you love yourself and respect yourself.

And now, self love. It's a mix of all we've listed higher above. But with one more thing to had to this all. Love yourself for real. Stop pretending. Stop saying your not good enough and stop being ashamed of who you are. I'll say it with all honnesty, stop caring about what people say. Your parents, brothers and sisters, your family in general, your friends, stop pretending and be yourself. If your part of the LGBT+, than be it. And there is way more but nothing is coming in my mind right now... Sorry! But yes. If these people can't accept yourself for who you are, then I don't know why you're still with them. Assume yourself and what you do.

♡~Respect your surroundings~♡

From your classroom to your working space to your home to the nature... Every where you go, you have to keep the space clean and furniture, infrastructure and all in good condition. You should take care of your surroundings and keep it clean. It's alway better, especially for outdoors and nature since it's a shared space. But it doesn't mean you shouldn't keep your house or working space clean. It's proven that a cleaned space helps for concentration and happiness. It's healthy in all way and it helps you feel good and make people and nature feel good.

♡~Respect of others~♡

Others feel too. I guess it's a bit contradictiry to what is written up above, since I say you need to talk and open up to others, express your feelings, but you can never forget that we all have our sh*t on our shoulders. If you want to talk, you have to express yourself with precaution if you know that person you're talking to also goes through a lot. We all have something to deal because life isn't an easy path to take, but it's still the best choice because without it, we could never accomplish all things we want to do. So you have to be taking care of your surrounding's psycholigy and your at the same time. It's a balance you have to find and it'll vary from a person to an other. So, psychology part is done.

Now, I guess we're in a world where violence isn't accepted, but I don't really knoe since I live in country where you can go in prison for being abusive. I'll tell you this. You can hate me for that, but to me, violence is not the solution. You can always talk calmly to express yourself. To yell and to hit the one your angry or not angry but to get your anger off on someone... It's not a good habit to adopt. It makes people arround you fear you and hate you and it hurts them. I know this is still normal in some places but let's change that. So, for the physical part, I'm done.

To recapitulate, you can express yourself but calmly and kindly even though you express anger to not affect to much the mental health of the other person and please, don't use violence. It just won't work.

♡~Self love tricks~♡

Hi! Nice to know you kept reading. It's now 9:02 pm and I've been writing since the whole beginning. I'm then happy to see your still here. So, ready for my tricks? These are personal tricks that works well. I can't garantee they'll work for every one, but their good to start with.

Talk to your reflection

No, I'm not crazy. Every morning, when you wake up, just encourage you. Be the one saying ''I love myself'' and ''I'm the best version of myself''. Also, if you don't feel so much like talking to yourself, write some sweet notes on Post-It and stick them on your mirror.

2.Positivity jar

We all have this useless jar or box at home. You'll need this and some paper. Just cut some rectangles and write down sweet notes. 365 to be precise. Every day, pick one random paper. You'll smile for sure. If you want to take it a step further, ask others to write someting on the papers and keep them secret until you pick them. A smile will appear for sure on your sweet face.

3.Don't do to much make up

For my make up lovers out there, I understand that heavy make up is your still and makes you confindent but try to have a day or two by week where you won't do make up or reduce the importance of product on your face. It'll help you feel better about yourself too, even though you might be feeling good behind your make up and it's ok. Just be kind to yourself and NEVER EVER say your ugly.

Ok... I'm freaking sleepy. I'll go to sleep now, so I'll say bye to you, dear reader! I love you. Good night!♡

Eve

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